Monday, January 31, 2011

How to Overcome Child Abuse 1/31/11


How to Overcome Child Abuse

Child Abuse Awareness
Child Abuse Awareness

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How to overcome Child Abuse.

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    When we think of Child Abuse, we probably think of Physical Abuse. Child Abuse, is not just Physical but can be "Mental" anguish afflicted upon a child. If you grew up in an Emotionally Abusive home, the best thing to do is to seek professional help, suppressing these painful memories will only come back to haunt you in later years. Especially if you are married, you don't want these painful feelings interfering in your married life.
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    In mostly all situations where Parents are emotionally abusive toward the children, the Parents themselves are unhappy and more than likely came from a troubled household. As crazy as it sounds, Parents who abuse their children actually feel good when they hurt others. They are so miserable inside that they take great comfort lasing out and trying to destroy others.
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    The most important thing for the abused child to understand is that nothing that happened was their fault. The child didn't ask to be born let alone abused. First and foremost, the person must seek professional help through a Psychotherapist. You must discuss the abuse with someone who can understand where you are coming from. Second, you must eventually confront the abuser, no matter what, you need to tell them how you feel and all the pain that they caused you. Eventually, you can begin to heal and put these memories behind you forever.


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How to Heal Yourself after an Abusive Childhood 1/31/11


How to Heal Yourself after an Abusive Childhood

Heal Yourself after an Abusive Childhood

Heal Yourself after an Abusive Childhood

Difficulty: Challenging


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I know that child abuse is a subject that everyone likes to shy away from talking about, but lets face it; it happens. It actually is happening more and more all over the USA every year. The U.S. Department of Health and Human Services' Child Welfare Information Gateway reported 3 million cases of possible child abuse in 2006. The numbers are shocking. I feel that raising child abuse awareness is something that is very important to do. Being one of the 872,000 of the confirmed child abuse cases in the USA, I have learned how to not so much overcome what happened to me as a child , but grow from it and become the best person I can be. In my case I was sexually abused, however my advice can help the abused from all different cases; whether it be physically, emotionally, or sexual. This is what I have learned in the process of healing from the child abuse.

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    GET OUT AND MAKE FRIENDS.During the six years of my abuse I was very distant from people. I didn't like to be around people because I was afraid of being rejected. Having great friends who don't judge after being abused is a great way to get to talk to people about what happened to you as a child. Talking about the child abuse is a great way to get reacquainted with the past. It's a good idea to think about the past and feel the pain, but don't let it overcome you. Keep telling yourself that you are okay and out of the danger. I know sometimes it feels like you can't get through what happened, but I assure you, you can.
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    READ. After the abuse was out in the open and the person was no longer around me, I received a book from my Grandma called "Beauty for Ashes" by Joyce Meyer. The book is a very great book to read, it really helped me in the process of healing. Her words are very encouraging. Aside from that book i have read many many other books about healing and as surprising as this is they really did help!
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    WRITE. Whether you write short stories, poems, a journal, or even a book; It really helps to get you emotions out on paper. I personally wrote many poems; poems to myself, my mother, my friends, God, my future, the abuser. Whatever yo choose to write let it come from your heart. Don't hold nothing back.
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    RESEARCH. There are many sites on the internet that can help you in your healing process. Use your search engine and soon you will find yourself looking at other people's stories, poems, and their personal way of dealing with the abuse in their adult life. Read their pages and join their forum if you can. Tell your story to them, they will understand exactly where you are coming from.
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    BUILD YOURSELF UP. Raise your self-esteem by surrounding yourself with positive people and thinking positive thoughts. Remember its not your fault, you were too young and couldn't do anything to protect yourself. Building yourself up can also help to begin mending your broken heart. Raising child abuse awareness is also a great way to make yourself feel good and like you are making a difference.
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    FORGIVE YOURSELF. I'm not asking you to forgive the person who has hurt you in any way. What I am asking you to do is let go of the hate and anger that has accumulated over time. The harsh feelings you are holding on to in the inside are very damaging to your body. Overtime if you don't remove the hurt of what happened it will consume you and make having a happy life nearly impossible. Let it all go not for anyone but YOU. Let it go to finally start living a life free of hate.


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About Today: Plan a Valentine's Day Getaway 1/31/11

From Jen Hubley, your About Today Editor
Valentine's Day is on a Monday this year, which means that most of us will be feeling more groggy than romantic on the supposed most romantic day of the year. So maybe we're all better off getting away for a long weekend instead?

Valentine's Day Getaways and Packages 
My family lives all over the country now, so when I plan a getaway, I want to stay closer to home. Fortunately, this list has destinations all over the world. One of them is bound to be right next door.
Best New Hotels for Romance 2011 
A friend of mine once expressed her life's ambition as, "Live in a hotel. Order room service every day." Whether or not that's your idea of fun for a lifetime, it's pretty great for a weekend.
Cheap Valentine's Day Ideas 
Let's say, though, that you don't have the money for a big getaway. (Hard to believe, with the economy in such lovely shape, but let's just say.) There's still plenty of fun stuff to do to celebrate the day.
Valentine's Ideas for Travelers ... and Stay-at-Home Types 
Need more ideas? You can learn everything from how to improve your flirty texting skills to how to grow aphrodisiacs in our Valentine's Day special.

About Today: Escape the Cold 1/28/11

From Jen Hubley, your About Today Editor
At least three times this week, someone has suggested to me that we all run away to a warmer climate. I've enthusiastically agreed each time. At this point? I'm just waiting for someone to come up with a plan.

Secret Mexican Beaches 
Step one: Choose a place to go. My only requirement is that our destination be beach-oriented. I'm even willing to negotiate on waiters with drinks. (Although I think we'd be better off, honestly.)
How to Pick the Right Caribbean Island 
Generally, when I think of beaches, I think of our local beach growing up, or I think of destination beaches like Florida or various Caribbean islands.
Top 10 Thailand Beaches 
All of which will do quite nicely, of course, but it's always worth it to think outside the beachy box, and consider new-to-me locales like Thailand or Africa.
See More About:  thailand beaches 
7 Best Beaches in Central America 
Honestly, if I can't actually go to the beach, I'll settle for looking at all of these pictures. If I concentrate hard enough, I think I can convince myself I'm really there.

About Today: What to Do During a Snow Day 1/27/11

From Jen Hubley, your About Today Editor
I remember being positively shocked, when I was a kid, that my mom didn't look forward to snow days as much as I did. I couldn't figure out why she wasn't excited to stay home and make snow angels and drink hot cocoa all day long.

What to Do During a Snow Day 
What I didn't realize, of course, was that snow days are less fun when you're in charge of directing snow removal and making sure everyone gets where they need to be.
See More About:  kids activities  school snow days 
How Working Parents Can Plan for a School Snow Day 
This is especially true if your kids get a snow day, but you still have to work. (To quote a friend of mine: "If we get one more snow day, I'm sending the kids to boarding school. It's the only answer.")
How to Find Emergency Child Care 
Finding last-minute child care is no joke. I've seen mothers close to trading blows over an available sitter, and I really wish I were kidding.
See More About:  backup childcare  staying healthy  swine flu
How to Work at Home With Kids 
Of course, some jobs will let you work at home. Which is great, provided that you can convince your kids to let you, you know, work at home.

About Today: How to Learn Magic Tricks 1/26/11

From Jen Hubley, your About Today Editor
When I was a kid, I was pretty sure that my dad was a wizard. This was partly because I thought he'd made up several words in the English language. (No else used the word "irony" in 1978.) But mostly, it was because he was great at magic tricks.

How to Learn Magic Tricks 
Our favorite was the one where he made his thumb disappear. I understand this is more of an illusion than a trick, but trust me, it was very impressive when we were kids.
28 Easy Magic Tricks 
Another good one: He'd ask us to pick a card. Then he's shuffle the deck, pick a card at random, and then ask us if that was our card. When we said it wasn't, he'd say, "Wrong!"
The 5 Biggest Mistakes Made by Beginner Magicians 
So, OK, pretty basic stuff. Still, he knew his audience, and that's maybe the most important thing for any performer.
How to Make Balloon Animals 
Also, he could make balloon animals. Mostly dogs and horses, because that's what we were interested in. But I think, once the 1980s hit, we might've had a unicorn in there too. Like I say: know your audience.

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